I am enough.

I have received dozens of letters from women I’ve never met. They all say the same thing: “that could have been me.”

This website is for all those women.

For you…

During counseling these past few years, I was asked what the one message I could have shared with the broken Toby that might have changed the outcome.

It was easy.

For most of my life, I believed I was not worthy. Which led to a lifetime of perfectionism and busy-ness. If someone had told me that I was enough, maybe I could have slowed down and smelled the flowers along the way.

Life is meant to be enjoyed, not accomplished!

Since 2009, when I married the man who saved my life, I have been on a path of searching for who I am. Not everything I have discovered has been pretty. Mostly there were no perfect little bows to open.

After running away from Kansas City in 2010, I am back – to face my past and build my future! My story is not a pretty story, but it is powerful and bold.

If I can find my way through the mess of my life, you can too!

It took me almost 60 years to believe that I am enough. I am worthy just the way I am. I do not have to earn love from anyone.

Neither do you. YOU are enough!

I offer you redemption, healing, love and acceptance.

Dorothy always had the power to go home, she just didn’t believe it.

Find the strength of character to explore who you really are. Have the courage to cast off your cloak and fulfill your potential. 

I am a story teller. But more importantly, I am a survivor, an explorer, a risk-taker and… a butterfly. 

Your time as a caterpillar is over. Your wings are ready.

Discover your story!