There ARE two sides to every story.
After the Dateline episode aired, I stayed up until well after 2:30 in the morning responding to social media messages, emails and contact forms sent from my website. I was overwhelmed with the outpouring of support from women I had never met. Women who told me, “you are telling MY story.” Women who called me brave and honest.
I basked in the good will and avoided reading comments on the Dateline site. I felt validated that my story needed to be heard and the women who needed to hear it were listening.
A week after the story aired, this message popped up on my website:
And you know what – she is also correct. I did humiliate, betray and abandon my husband and my children do feel shame towards me.
The Broken Toby would have melted into a blubbering blob, crushed by shame and drowning in guilt.
The Healing Toby read this message and immediately felt sorrow – for the woman who wrote it. I’m so glad I no longer dwell in her narrow view of the world.
We all make mistakes. And we are NOT our worst mistake. We have value even if our past actions do not seem worthy of value. That’s the beauty of God’s gift to us all.
At first I thought I would delete her comment after reading it, but I’ve decided to share it instead. Don’t let someone else’s judgement of you stop you from moving forward boldly.